Mel was looking through rose coloured glasses as young women do (she's not so young either). I don't know what she could see but it certainly wasn't what I was seeing!
Only a few weeks later on Valentine's Day he shared that he was made a ward of the state at two years of age. He had been passed around like baggage from one foster family to another. I'm sure I wouldn't have done well either. I wondered if anyone had taught him to give. Giving is good for the soul. The more you give the more you receive. Of course if you give to receive that doesn't really work! It comes from the pleasure of giving. The not so young man in question delighted in receiving but had no idea of giving or its pleasure.
I felt for Mel when he didn't give her a Christmas present until a week afterwards. I knew there would be no Valentines present and she hadn't bothered to buy him one. The rot was already beginning.
Only last week she rang him and said the stress of being engaged was too much for her. She needed a break for a month. He retorted it was over and never wanted to see her again. Days of Our Lives (TV serial) began.
The following week she was back with him. Mel said they were no longer engaged, just going out together. She was quiet. He was still angry.
Only last night he rang her and gave her an ultimatum. She had to choose between him or her Mum (me!) I was receiving a running commentary of messages from her soon after. She said she called him a 'bastard' and said she would choose her Mum anytime. I wondered if I scored 'brownie' points because I didn't judge her when they got back together. I wondered if she looked at all that we have gone through together and how we give to one another. I wondered if she looked at him and saw nothing. At least nothing worthwhile.
I do know I will be there for her as always. I wont dissect the whole affair or discuss with her until she starts the conversation first. Why rub salt into already weeping wounds?
Will I be surprised if he changes his mind and scrubs the ultimatum? No.
What do I really want for her? I just want her to be happy and satisfied with her life.
Yesterday we celebrated another weight loss milestone. The goal was 75kgs and she weighed in at 74.9kgs! Only 9.9kgs before she buy her ticket to Paris.
Remember Mel whatever happens, we will be there for you.
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| Mel yesterday at 74.9kgs |
